Q: What inspired you to write My Ride or Die, and to create your characters Sophie and Amanda?
A: I loved the idea of taking the usual romantic comedy and flipping the script, which in this case meant taking the friendships, which are usually ancillary to the main story, and giving them center stage.
I wanted Sophie and Amanda to have a great, yin-yang dynamic but without either of them falling into stereotypes. They needed to be real women with real ambitions and real flaws, to each have moments of being more cautious, and moments of being more wild.
Q: The Kirkus Review of the book calls it "An exploration of the expansiveness and constraints of female friendship." What do you think the novel says about female friendship?
A: It says that female friendship is powerful, absolutely essential, and also— tricky.
It isn’t about whether friendship is more or less important than romantic relationships, but rather about how those friendships can actually sustain the romances. It's about finding the right place for both, which can take some finagling.
My hope is that this novel is very true to the way that women interact and speak to each other.
Q: Did you know how the book would end before you started writing it, or did you make many changes along the way?
A: I had a few ideas, in the beginning, of how I wanted it to end but I always change my mind. The story and characters change as I write. But some parts of my original idea remained. I knew the mood of the scene before I knew any of the details.
Q: How was the book's title chosen, and what does it signify for you?
A: We wanted to quickly encapsulate the significance but also the fun of female friendship, which is actually rather difficult to do in a succinct way, and without sounding too young. Many, many titles were proffered and scratched.
When my editor at HarperCollins suggested this one, I was hesitant at first, but then I grew to like it. It’s very much a part of the vernacular right now, and it’s not tossed around lightly. It’s an important designation that is meaningful to those who use it. To me, it means that person who is there with you through thick and thin.
Q: What are you working on now?
A: My next novel, which will be another romantic comedy, but with a sexy, European vacation feel to it. And that is, at least in part, because this author would like to take a sexy, European vacation right now.
--Interview with Deborah Kalb