Alison Rand is the author of the new memoir Walking Alison: A Poodle's Mostly True Story of Helping Her Human Navigate Life. She also has written the memoir A Place Called Grace. She lives in Manhattan.
Q:
What inspired you to write this new memoir from the perspective of your poodle,
Dea?
A:
After I published my first memoir, A Place Called Grace, I heard from many
people that they were curious as to what happened to me because it ended in a
bittersweet way, not a fairytale ending.
I
knew I had more of a story to tell but didn’t feel that telling it from my own
point of view was the right way to go.
So,
as I looked for a different angle I realized that my dog, Dea, my beloved and
opinionated black poodle, knows me as well as I know myself!
Plus,
we have a lot in common—we have the same birthday, we both love exercise and we
both suffer from bouts of anxiety. I then thought why not write this second
memoir entirely from her point of view.
I
tried not to anthropomorphize Dea because Dea is a dog and it needed to be told
from a poodle’s perspective, but I also needed to keep my own persona as her
number one character. I knew it would be a challenge, but Dea had to tell my
continuing story.
As
I researched other books narrated by dogs and one narrated by a cat, they were
all terrific stories but they were fiction and mine was a memoir. I couldn’t
find anything that was comparable to what I wanted to do, so that was scary.
Would anyone be interested in an opinionated poodle narrating her mama’s
memoir? I decided yes.
My
memoir is really like two different books in one. It is my continuing memoir,
but because it is told by my dog, my story had to intertwine her voice and
personality and our lives into telling my story—not an easy feat.
Q:
How would you describe the relationship between you and Dea?
A:
Dea and I are bonded at the hip. While her puppyhood was a bit challenging, and
at one point I wasn’t sure I could manage such a smart, feisty puppy, once I
was “trained” properly I fell madly in love with my amazing poodle.
She
has separation anxiety which she exhibited even at six weeks old when I first
met her. But we have mostly worked that out and she understands I will come
back inside the big front door-- one day!
Dea
is extremely social and when she takes me out on our walks she introduces me to
all her dog friends and to all that she notices outside, like the beady-eyed
squirrels who run up trees or that new patch of grass that has not been marked
recently so she does the honors.
I
also have a master’s in social work so communication verbally and non-verbally
is part of my training and Dea and I are so bonded that we communicate
beautifully together. I am as in tune with her non-verbal abilities to
communicate as she is with mine.
After
Alba, my first dog as an adult, died, I didn’t think I could ever love another
dog again. The pain was just too immense. So when I first got Dea, only a few
months after Alba had gone over the Rainbow Bridge, I thought it might have
been too soon for another dog. But soon enough once again, after I got trained
I fell madly in love with my little monkey girl. We are now together almost all
the time.
Q:
Was the writing process very different with this book than with A Place Called
Grace?
A:
A Place Called Grace was my first memoir and it was a difficult venture because
my editor pushed me to be as open and honest as I could. At times it was
painful to write about my difficult childhood where my family was severed at an
early age and I was separated from my brother and sister during my parents’
divorce. Then writing about my own divorce, the loss of my beloved brother,
David, my mother and then my dog Alba.
Yes,
it was cathartic but I also knew it didn’t feel finished and I also recognized
it would end in a bittersweet manner, not in a Hollywood ending.
In
contrast, writing Walking Alison: A Poodle’s Mostly True Story of Helping Her
Human Navigate Life was also an open and honest memoir showing my vulnerabilities
and foibles but because Dea was telling the story it was the most joyful
experience because through her voice and opinions about my life I was able to
laugh at myself and add humor to my story.
Even
while I confessed to telling Dea how scared I was with the fear of my breast
cancer recurrence, she has a different take on life and changes the dynamics.
While
writing the book I had to begin to notice even more behaviors about Dea. So, we
took more walks in the park, looking at every tree, every fallen leaf, every
squirrel and we engaged with many strangers. It then became second nature for
me to look at life through her eyes and not my own because I was only focused
on Dea.
Plus,
while I was writing the story Dea was seated on my lap and her presence there helped
to enhance and really get into her doggie mindset!
Q:
What impact did writing this memoir have on you, and what do you hope readers
take away from it?
A:
Writing Walking Alison had a huge impact on me because first and foremost, my
beloved dog, Dea, is the star of the book. Of course, I want the reader to love
her feisty, comical, and opinionated ways.
As
I was writing the most difficult scenes, such as when my breast cancer came
back, I tried not to make it too sad by allowing Dea to recount the situation
and add her own spin to it.
In
fact, Dea adds her own spin to all my situations—falling in love, internet
dates, Covid, isolation, my brother’s death, my mother and the loss of my first
poodle, Alba. Because Dea has such wit and strong opinions about the strange
ways of humans and how we deal with life, I ended up agreeing with her most of
the time!
My
story has layers of universal themes that I hope the reader will relate to. For
me personally but also for so many others this story deals with serious
illness, loneliness, isolation, fear, and love—and being able to love and care
for someone apart from yourself.
The
goal of my memoir is for the reader to hopefully relate and engage with my
story and especially care about my dog as the narrator. Also, because I write
in an open and honest manner showing my insecurities, I hope some people will
see themselves in me and resonate with my journey.
Dea
gave me a feeling of internal safety and I want the reader to think about the
power of the human-animal bond that can help in so many ways via the complete
selflessness of a dog
Q:
What are you working on ow?
A:
Dea and I are thinking about how to continue with another story!
Q:
Anything else we should know?
A:
I recently read an article in The New York Times called “How Science Went to
The Dogs and Cats.” The author, Emily Anthes,
reported that the research suggested dogs were extremely adept at
interpreting human signals and signs even more so than wolves who were raised
by humans. Plus, she also reported that at times dogs read human cues better
than even great apes.
Dogs
are earthly angels and we underestimate all that they can and do give us as
humans. We are so fortunate to have them in our lives.
--Interview with Deborah Kalb