Tracy C. Gold is the author of the new children's picture book Call Your Father. Her other books include Call Your Mother. She lives in Baltimore.
Q: Why did you decide to write Call Your Father, a companion to your book Call Your Mother?
A: You know, it’s funny, because when Call Your Mother came out, some reviewers were like “Hey, what about the dad? Moms shouldn’t have to do all this alone.” I don’t reply to reviews, but in my head, I was like, hey! Just wait for Call Your Father! Plus, not all families have a mom and a dad.
We started working on Call Your Father long before Call Your Mother came out. That was a big swing and big risk for the publisher, Familius, because no one knew how well Call Your Mother was going to perform.
Honestly, I can’t remember the moment I decided to write Call Your Father, but it felt like a natural follow up. I think pretty much everyone I told about Call Your Mother asked me if I was doing Call Your Father (Well, pretty much every dad I told!). As soon as Familius agreed to publish Call Your Father, it was nice to say that it was coming!
Q: How would you describe the relationship between the two books?
A: The overarching structure is the same, but the examples of when you’d need to call your dad are almost all different. I do hit some of the same general beats, though.
I didn’t want Mom dealing with a potty emergency and Dad not getting the same experience, but the specifics vary. Mom has a kid (and cat!) making a mess in the bathroom. Dad gets to deal with the very relatable situation of getting a kid finally all dressed for the snow…and then hearing…“I gotta go!”
It was a little tricky to figure out how to make Call Your Father different enough from Call Your Mother while gently pushing back on parenting stereotypes.
There was recently a viral thread about how the classic book Spot Loves Mommy focuses on chores and errands while in Spot Loves Daddy, they get to go to the park and eat ice cream. I didn’t want to do that, though I had to push back against some critiques and suggestions.
I did have one person say to add something fun “only dads would do” like take the kid for ice cream after Mom said no. I didn’t add that. First, in my family, we work hard to try not to undermine each other. Second, if someone were to sneak treats, it would totally be me, the mom, doing the sneaking. I’m the one with the huge sweet tooth and the inability to say no!
Another person said they didn’t think the grandpa would come to help with a newborn the same way a grandma would. I pushed back on that as well. Both of my kid’s grandfathers helped a lot when my kid was a newborn.
I know many grandfathers who play huge roles in their grandchildren’s lives, yes, right from the start. For some of these men, I think that when they were raising kids, they weren’t really expected or encouraged to take a huge role. Many had very intense jobs and didn’t get to spend as much time as they wanted with their own kids. The grandchildren present a second chance, and they’re seizing it.
The last lines of each book were also chosen very intentionally, but Call Your
Father, even more so. In Call Your Mother, the character who has just become a
new mom asks the new grandma, “Mom, how did you do it?”
In Call Your Father, the new dad gets more dialogue. He says “Dad, I never knew it was possible to love someone this much. I’m afraid I won’t be good enough. How did you manage it?”
Grandpa says “I would do the same as you, I would call my father too.” And, as in Call Your Mother, the great-grandparent is looking on from a portrait on the wall, which is where these books always make me tear up.
I went back and forth a lot with Familius’ editorial team on the perfect way to end this book so it was different enough, without falling into stereotypes. I like where we landed.
I don’t think that men are socialized as much as women to know, going in, how parenthood changes everything, including expanding the capacity of your heart to love. I was happy to give the new dad a moment to express that.
Q: What do you think the book says about fatherhood?
A: This book celebrates dads who do it all! The midnight wakeups, the potty emergencies, the emotions of losing a baseball game, the challenge of deciding what to do about bullying. The dad keeps persevering when life is hard for him, and when life is hard for his kid.
This book shows an aspirational dad. He’s doing everything right, but we can see in the illustrations that he’s stressed. And it’s ok to be stressed! Parenting is hard!
At the end of the book, the stress is clear in the text. We see a man being vulnerable and reaching out to another man for help. That’s something I’d love to see men do more.
My own husband is great at that! He has so many wonderful, deep relationships with other men. But I think he’s the exception—so many men I know were raised never to be vulnerable because it could be seen as “weak.”
I’d love for this book to feed into conversations our culture is having about masculinity. It’s okay for men to talk about their emotions—it’s actually wonderful when that happens!
If we can get this generation of dads to be more involved with their kids and talk about their feelings, it will be easier for their kids to do it, and maybe we can break some difficult cycles.
Q: What do you hope kids (and adults) take away from the book?
A: Well, I hope that when a parent reads this book to their kids, they shut the book, then pick up the phone and call their dad. My dream is for the book to strengthen the relationships between kids and their parents right there, in the room, while they’re reading, but also to strengthen those intergenerational bonds.
I will say that when I read this book, or Call Your Mother, to a group of kids, I’m very aware that not all kids have a mom or dad in their lives. Certainly, when I do story times at bookstores, there are a lot of adults who have lost their own parents.
I always start by saying “imagine someone who is like a dad, or like a mom to you.” That kind of opens it up so if someone doesn’t have a mom or dad they can call, they can think of another wonderful figure in that role. I want the book to feel like a big, comforting hug—a reminder that our moms, dads, and other loved ones will always be there for us.
Q: What are you working on now?
A: I’m in a bit of a holding pattern right now. For those of you who follow publishing, kidlit imprints have been closing or getting condensed left and right. Dial Books, an imprint of Penguin Young Readers, closed in March. Macmillan closed Roaring Brook recently as well. They’re making a new imprint, but they laid off six people.
All that to say that my agent has been sending books out on sub, but editors have to jump through a lot of hoops to get a yes, and the number of editors you can submit to is shrinking. So a lot of us in children’s publishing are kind of biting our nails right now!
That all said, I’m really excited to have a new book coming with Familius in 2027. It’s called Everywhere You Go, and it’s about a kid and a dog who go everywhere together.
I’ve also been playing around with ideas to get kids more engaged with text, which means maybe activity books or some fun formatting for nonfiction.
It’s hard to balance coming up with ideas and sending them out into the world while also marketing Call Your Father this spring! I’ve told my friends that if they want to see me, they can come to one of my book events, ha.
Q: Anything else we should know?
A: You can always follow me on Instagram,
Threads,
or Facebook!
I post book news on all three, but on Insta and Threads, you’ll catch more cute
horses and dogs. I hope that after
you’re done reading this, you call—or at least text—someone you love.
Also, if you are local to Baltimore, I have so many fun book events this spring. Including one at a farm! More details here!
--Interview with Deborah Kalb. Here's a previous Q&A with Tracy C. Gold.











