Friday, February 13, 2026

Q&A with Amil Niazi

  

Photo by Norm Wong

 

 

Amil Niazi is the author of the new book Life After Ambition: A "Good Enough" Memoir. She writes a column, The Hard Part, for The Cut. She lives in Toronto.

 

Q: Why did you decide to write this memoir?

 

A: When I wrote about the idea of “losing my ambition” for The Cut, I was at a breaking point with my career, frustrated by the idea that as a 40-year-old woman, I’d already reached my “peak earning years.” I was overwhelmed trying to juggle work and motherhood and feeling like I was sacrificing myself trying to be perfect at both.

 

The incredible response to the viral essay showed me that I wasn’t alone in this and that there was value in exploring what ambition had always meant to me, my journey as a woman of color trying to navigate the working world and what lead to my ultimate divorce from a certain kind of striving.

 

And when I sat down to write, I knew that sharing certain vulnerable and traumatic aspects of that process would help some people feel less alone. Ultimately, the book I wrote was for a younger version of myself, who always wished for a book like this. 

 

Q: How were the book’s title and subtitle chosen, and what do they signify for you?

 

A: The working title initially came from my essay for The Cut, but ultimately the change from “Losing My Ambition” to “Life After Ambition” felt more hopeful and honest about the trajectory of the book.

 

The subtitle is a nod to the work of Donald Winnicott, who championed the idea that a “good enough” mother was better than a perfect mother. Through the process of having three kids and continuing to pursue a writing career, I ultimately landed on the feeling that being “good enough” at work and at home was the only way for me to survive doing both. 

 

Q: In a Vogue article, Emma Spector says of the book, “Life After Ambition offers no tidy conclusions; Niazi is telling her story in medias res, inviting readers to figure the whole mess out with her—and in this era of gentle-parenting TikToks and general advice oversaturation, that feels like a gift.” What do you think of that assessment?

 

A: I loved Emma’s read of the book. My aim was never to be prescriptive, but rather to share my own experiences of work, womanhood, and motherhood and hoped that in reading my story, other people would see some of themselves there.

 

I’ve received so many DMs and emails from readers who say they’ve found comfort, reflection, and inspiration in the book. 

 

Q: What impact did it have on you to write the book, and what do you hope readers take away from it?

 

A: I found that in writing and releasing the book, I also released a lot of shame, fear, and isolation. There are things in the book that I have never spoken in depth about to my own family out of fear of judgment, so to put it out there in this way was terrifying but ultimately gratifying. I hope by reading it, people feel the same. 

 

Q: What are you working on now?

 

A: I’m about to start work on a podcast that touches on motherhood and momfluencers, I’m continuing to write my column, “The Hard Part,” for The Cut and starting to compose a proposal for another book (fingers crossed!)

 

Q: Anything else we should know?

 

A: Writing a book, this book, was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but I’m so grateful to every single person that has picked it up and if you find even a small sense of hope or self-reflection in there, it was all worth it.

 

--Interview with Deborah Kalb 

Q&A with Nancy Bernhard

  


 

 

Nancy Bernhard is the author of the new novel The Double Standard Sporting House. She also has written the book U.S. Television News and Cold War Propaganda, 1947-1960. Also a journalism historian and a yoga teacher, she lives in Somerville, Massachusetts. 

 

Q: You’ve said that your grandmother told you her Aunt Beadie was a madam in the 1920s, although that was a fabrication. Can you say more about that, and about how it led to your writing The Double Standard Sporting House and creating your character Doc?

 

A: Beadie was a free spirit who lived outside the lines of sexual convention and was shamed for it by being called a sex worker. But I began to wonder how girls end up in the sex trade. The answer is mostly through no fault of their own, either because it’s their only way to survive, or because they are raped. And yet they are shamed—their stories are written out of history, just eradicated.

 

A character began to take shape in my mind, a gifted healer, who ends up on the wrong side of respectability, and finds she has far more freedom to practice medicine and accrue enough wealth to help many women and girls.

 

Q: How did you research the novel, and did you learn anything that especially surprised you?

 

A: During the lockdown of 2020-2021, I read a lot of books about the history of the 19th century sex trade including trafficking; New York City politics, especially Tammany Hall; and the history of women’s reproductive healthcare.

 

What surprised me most was how many women worked in the sex trade in 1868 New York. Given that they were excluded from most professions and could hardly earn a living wage in the jobs they were allowed to do, we estimate that at least 10 percent of the women in the city that year did sex work.

 

Of the women alive in the city at that time, 30 percent probably took money for sex at some point in their lives. Contrast that to 1 percent now, when we have many other ways to earn a living.

 

Q: What did you see as the right balance between fiction and history as you wrote the book?

 

A: The setting of an elite brothel funding a medical clinic while captive to a political syndicate requires some explanation! A lot of work went into establishing Doc’s world for the reader.

 

As an historian, I had to learn how to render the complex setting and history through the story and the lives of the characters rather than through explanation or long background passages. It came a long way through revision, and I’m sure it could be better, but it’s pretty immersive.

 

Q: How was the novel’s title chosen, and what does it signify for you?

 

A: As I did the research, I kept a document with evocative expressions of the sexual double standard through the centuries. In the present day, we see it mostly as women being blamed and shamed for sexual behavior that we condone or forgive in men.

 

A sporting house is a period term for a brothel, and the title just occurred to me one day. I found it funny and provocative that Doc would give her house this name.

 

I gradually came to see the double standard as even deeper, as men trying to control reproduction for their economic and sexual privilege, even though women carry the burden of it, and are shamed for it.

 

Q: What are you working on now?

 

A: A novel about rock-and-roll mythology and women in 1968.

 

Q: Anything else we should know?

 

A: Doc’s pioneering work in healing for survivors of sexual assault found inspiration in my work as a trauma-sensitive yoga teacher. We have a lot of research-based, pharmacological, and technological strategies for healing now, but women have been doing this work together forever. Storytelling is fundamental to healing.

 

--Interview with Deborah Kalb 

Feb. 13

 


 

ON THIS DAY IN HISTORY
Feb. 13, 1881: Eleanor Farjeon born.

Thursday, February 12, 2026

Q&A with Jan Cress Dondi

  


 

 

Jan Cress Dondi is the author of the new book The Navigator's Letter: The True Story of Two WWII Airmen, a Doomed Mission, and the Woman Who Bound Them Together. She lives in Fort Lauderdale, Florida.

 

Q: What inspired you to write The Navigator’s Letter?

 

A: I discovered a trunk of letters in my parents’ basement. While I had always known “some letters” existed, I had no idea there were hundreds from the World War II years.

 

Reading them opened a deeply personal window into my father’s and my uncle’s lives. It set me on an investigative journey to understand the larger history surrounding them—prompting memories of a lifetime that laid the groundwork for writing the book.

 

Q: How much did you know about your father’s and uncle’s wartime service as you were growing up?

 

A: Probably more than I realized at the time. As a child, I absorbed stories and moments of my father’s and uncle’s wartime service without fully understanding the significance. It felt like fragments—snapshots woven into everyday life.

 

Only later did I recognize how much those experiences had shaped my perspective and prepared me to write this book.

  

I spent summers in my grandmother’s music room beneath my uncle’s military portrait, which sparked constant conversation. My father shared stories that mirrored their World War II experiences—bedtime tales of enemy interrogations delivered in a curt German accent, descriptions of dive-bombing Stukas, and daring prison escapes.

 

On long walks in the park, he pointed out star formations—after all, they were both navigators—and I’m ever amazed that the stars alone guided their course. There was no GPS then.

 

And even during the Vietnam era, those conversations continued. Wearing a copper bracelet to honor an American POW prompted deeper discussions. No questions were avoided. Time was always made. In hindsight, it feels as though my entire life had been preparing me to tell this story.

 

Q: How did you research the book, and what did you learn that especially surprised you?

 

A: A lifetime of stories with the main characters unknowingly kick-started this project, but clues hidden in letters sent me on an emotional journey to uncover more.

 

I focused on the European theatre of World War II, where the two men served, traveling across the globe to seek historical records, conduct interviews, and experience firsthand the places my characters once knew.

 

In Romania, I worked with an aviation archeologist and historian to piece together the Ploesti puzzle and delivered a presentation at the U.S. embassy in Bucharest.

 

In Freiburg, Germany, I combed through the federal records at the Bundesarchiv, and in England, multiple visits allowed me to gather detailed information about airfields, barracks and daily life on an airbase.

 

Back in the U.S., I spent countless hours interviewing the main characters, gentlemen who were on the Ploesti missions, other WWII veterans and acquaintances of my central characters.

 

Hundreds of thousands of pages from the national archives, military service and operational records including documentation from the individual Bomb Groups were reviewed. And to connect fully with the experience, I took an unforgettable flight in one of the last airworthy B-24 Liberators.

 

This journey has been more than a decade in the making—years of research, writing and reflection. Along the way, I encountered incredible discoveries and frustrating dead ends combined with moments of tears and smiles. It has taken time to gather the material necessary to tell John B. and Bob’s story with the authenticity and care it deserves.

 

Surprises? Absolutely—so many. At the American Air Museum/Imperial War Museum in Duxford, England, a life-size photograph of my uncle and his crew was displayed next to a full-scale B-24 Liberator. The same crew image is also displayed at the U.S. Air Force Museum in Dayton, Ohio.

 

While searching through miles of military footage, I unexpectedly discovered my father—alive in that moment—in a segment of Operation Reunion.

 

Other discoveries emerged from persistent research: 1940 transcripts of Radio Debates my uncle delivered on multi-state broadcasts from WLS in Chicago; a video clip of my father’s friend’s 1941 yellow convertible—the very car my father wrote about while cruising around Texas universities during navigation training; and an interview with a 1950s television personality who had preserved scrapbooks about my uncle for over 70 years.

 

Finally, standing at Hardwick Air Force Base in England—the very airfield from which my uncle had once flown eight decades before—perhaps it was the culmination of my research or the connection with my father, but standing on that airstrip, a surge of emotion overwhelmed me… still does today.

Q: What impact did it have on you to write the book, and what do you hope readers take away from it?

 

A: Writing this book made me realize how little I truly knew about WWII, especially the dangers of an air war. In the early 1940s, aviation was still a new and thrilling concept. The Air Force lured young men with the promise of flight—the “wild blue yonder.”

 

Exciting, right? But when you learn what those 20-somethings—some barely out of their teens—actually faced, it’s astonishing they held it together.

 

Flying in combat was no easy task during World War II. At altitude, temperatures in the open fuselage could drop to minus 60—frostbite set in in seconds.

 

Over the target, there was no avoiding the concussions from flak timed to the aircraft’s altitude—as a direct hit could take a bomber down. Enemy fighters aimed .50 caliber machine guns point-blank at our bombers—they were shooting to kill—and bullets could pierce through oil or hydraulic lines, forcing crews to fight fires onboard.

 

My father described it as “fearsome,” but I didn’t truly grasp how harrowing it was until I dug into the research. Survival depended on skill and teamwork but ultimately, it boiled down to sheer luck. One veteran told me, “In this racket, you’re here one day and gone the next.”

 

I hope readers come away with a real sense of the risks those airmen took every time they climbed into their aircraft. The skies were deadly, yet they flew with remarkable bravery, selflessness, and a sense of duty that is difficult to comprehend today—qualities that deserve to be remembered and honored.

 

Their stories reveal how ordinary young men accomplished extraordinary feats, and how their sacrifices continue to shape the freedoms we enjoy today.

 

Q: What are you working on now?

 

A: I’m exploring a few new directions that have emerged from The Navigator’s Letter. I can’t share the details just yet—stay tuned!

 

Q: Anything else we should know?

 

A: I have four grandchildren under the age of 6, which has deepened my purpose. There’s a saying that goes, In order to see who we are, it’s important to know from where we came. It’s a powerful idea.

 

Knowing our ancestors gives us strength and perspective, and family history shapes who we are. Passing those stories and memories on to younger generations feels more important now than ever.

 

--Interview with Deborah Kalb 

Q&A with Corey Seemiller

  


 

 

Corey Seemiller is the author of the new book The Soulmate Strategy: My Imperfect Plan to Conquer Heartbreak and Find True Love. She is the co-host of the Rock That Relationship! podcast, and is a leadership educator. She lives in Tucson, Arizona. 

 

Q: What inspired you to write The Soulmate Strategy?

 

A: As a lesbian, I know first-hand that there are very few books that validate the life experiences, relationships, and heartbreak of women who love women. I know because I was on an endless search for them when I was suffering heartache.

 

After my seven-year relationship came crashing down, I was left scrambling for anything that could help me feel in control. I needed information, validation, inspiration . . . whatever would make the pain subside and allow me to move on and find love again. I binged podcasts and audiobooks, but nothing fully reached me.

 

So, I chronicled my heartbreak to healing journey as it was happening. Writing this book as my life unfolded was wholly authentic, raw, and unscripted, leaving me not knowing the ending until I felt that the story reached what felt like its natural destination.

 

My hope is that my memoir inspires readers to love themselves, missteps and all, as they go through or reflect on their own journeys from heartbreak to healing to love again. 

 

Q: How was the book's title chosen, and what does it signify for you?

 

A: This book went through many title iterations beginning with, “My Love Life is Terrible, and Why I’m Grateful for That,” which no one except for one friend seemed to like.

 

I then shifted to “The Healing Plan: My Relentless Quest to Conquer Heartbreak and Find ‘The One,’” which seemed to come off more like a nutrition self-help guide meets breakup recovery textbook.

 

I then landed on “The Soulmate Search,” which I became quite attached to. But, then I learned that the title was also the name of some lesser-known movie and would confuse readers.

 

After recovering from the disappointment of losing my clever “Soulmate Search” title, I started to think, “Was this a search or more of a contrived, planned, and scripted quest?” The answer to that question was clear: My journey was far of a more strategic process than a passive search.

 

Thus, I worked with my memoir coach to finalize a title that felt perfectly fitting: “The Soulmate Strategy: My Imperfect Plan to Conquer Heartbreak and Find True Love.” That one felt like it reflected my Type-A personality and need to force my way through healing and finding love, which is exactly what this story is about!

 

Q: What do you see as the most common perceptions and misconceptions about soulmates?

 

A: I used to believe that people have one soulmate and that they spend their lives scouring the Earth hoping to run into their person so they could have true love.

 

But my view of soulmates expanded greatly throughout the journey I wrote about in the book. As I met with intuitives and learned more about the subject, I began to believe that our soul circles are much wider, and comprise dozens, if not hundreds, of people with whom we have deep and complex past life histories.

 

These individuals play a variety of roles in our present-day lives – friends, coworkers, family members, neighbors, and even in some cases, romantic partners. Our feelings towards them can be familiar, magnetic, or even uncomfortable with no explanation.

 

Often, we have a purpose in meeting them – perhaps to complete a soul contract, finalize unfinished business from a past life, or to serve as a familiar traveling companion from lifetime to lifetime.

 

Many people in my soul circle emerged throughout my journey, affirming for me that their presence in my life was far more profound than I had ever imagined . . . maybe even more so than any elusive romantic soulmate I was on the hunt for.

 

The other perspective about soulmates that shifted for me was that I formerly believed that if I somehow found my soulmate, I would be guaranteed a fail-safe relationship in this lifetime.

 

I learned quickly, though, that because of soul contracts, not all people in our circles are destined to play “forever” roles in our present lives. Thus, we have to trust our intuition to draw us to people we connect with, and then invest our heart, time, and energy into those relationships, while not being afraid to leave if the connection no longer brings us joy.

 

Q: What impact did it have on you to write the book, and can you say more about what you hope readers take away from it?

 

A: For one, writing the book played a significant part in my healing journey. While writing, I could reflect and make meaning of my experience as it was unfolding, allowing me to process my emotions in a unique way.

 

In addition, the four years of editing continuously thrust me back into the story, where I discovered even more meaning and resolution.

 

I hope readers see that heartbreak can be messy for just about everyone who goes through it. We tend to think we are alone in feeling out of control, trying to grasp onto anything that would make the hurt, angst, and pain subside.

 

But we aren’t alone. Heartbreak is universal; and, if people venture along with me during my chaotic quest to heal and find love, maybe they will feel more validated in their own journeys through heartache and love.

 

Q: What are you working on now?

 

A: I’m in the editing stage of a follow-on book about healing after heartbreak. I took many of the tactical ideas from my memoir, expanded on them, and incorporated them into an interactive and inspirational guide for surviving and thriving after heartbreak.

 

Q: Anything else we should know?

 

A: I loved writing this book. But it was hard. I relived difficult moments over and over as I wrote and then later edited the manuscript. As time went on, though, I became more distanced from each event and could see them from a slightly different vantage point, allowing me to discover and unpack more about my own experience.

 

In the book, I list 44 items on my checklist I did to help me with healing. But, honestly, writing this book was by far the most healing. And, for that, I’m grateful. 

 

--Interview with Deborah Kalb 

Q&A with Rachel Tzvia Back

  


 

 

 

Rachel Tzvia Back is the author of the new book The Dark-Robed Mother: A Memoir. Her other books include What Use is Poetry, the Poet Is Asking. She is also a translator and a professor of literature.

 

Q: What inspired you to write The Dark-Robed Mother?

 

A: Over the years, I’ve read many depression memoirs, benefitting from them in profound ways. Often they were true lifesavers.

 

However, at one point, I started feeling that the particular aspects of my life with depression were underrepresented, if represented at all. I was searching for a memoir that might discuss the challenges of living with high-functioning depression – a confusing form of the illness.

 

Also, I was looking for, and not finding, narratives that developed an extensive view of mothering with depression. In the end, I wrote the book I needed to read.

 

Q: How was the book’s title chosen, and what does it signify for you?

 

A: The phrase “the dark-robed mother” is one of the epithets given to the goddess Demeter in the ancient Hymn to Demeter. Throughout the writing process, my book had a different title, far less successful.

 

When I shared with Suzanna Tamminem, the exceptional editor-in-chief of Wesleyan University Press, that I was unhappy with my own chosen title and was looking for something else, she offered this as a possibility.

 

The moment she suggested it, I fell in love with it. The dark-robed mothers in the book are multiple: Demeter, my mother, myself.

 

Q: What are some of the most common perceptions and misconceptions about the myth of Persephone and Demeter?

 

A: A common misconception, certainly encouraged by the text itself, is that this tale is not also the story of Persephone. It’s extraordinary to me how she is obscured, not our focus – though it is she who is carried into the Underworld.  

 

Another element of the Hymn that does not get enough attention is the extreme powerlessness of Demeter, the mother. She, goddess of the harvest, can do little but grieve. It’s terrible to consider. 

 

In the raging violence of our world today, I’ve been thinking about this even more – the powerlessness of mothers to save our children from all forms of darkness and suffering. 

 

Q: What impact did it have on you to write this book, and what do you hope readers take away from it?

 

A: I was engaged in writing this book for almost three years. Taking the time to immerse myself in the Hymn, in depression studies, and in reflecting deeply on my own life with depression was a gift I gave to myself.

 

The darkness of depression can be, and so often is, a place of muteness; working to finding words for the darkness, for the experience of it, is challenging, often daunting but, finally, profoundly rewarding.

 

Part of the writing process was interviewing my adult children, to learn from them their experiences and perspectives on being raised by a mother with depression. It was very important to me to have their voices in the book.

 

I feel abundantly grateful to them for trusting me in this way, and grateful they spoke as honestly as they did. The impact of this element has been for me greater understanding.

 

My hopes for what readers may take away from this memoir are many.

 

I hope that a reader experiencing the terribly isolating darkness of depression may find some of herself in my book and hence feel less lonely.

 

I’m hoping also that the complexities of raising children through decades of depression may become a more significant and developed part of the conversation on depression, as a result of this book.

 

As I have such faith in what poems may teach us, I’m hoping also this book guides mental health practitioners to seek out certain poems to help them better understand the experience of depression.

 

Extraordinary as this is to acknowledge, even well into the 21st century, depression is still, in certain circles, a taboo subject. I want my memoir to be of use in this realm too.

 

I’m fervently hoping that readers who have a story of depression, their own or of a  family member, that they have kept a secret, may feel in reading my book a release from the need to hide. 

 

Q: What are you working on now?

 

A: I’m working on a collection of New & Selected Poems.

 

Q: Anything else we should know?

 

A: The hybridity of this book is, for me, an important element. Poetry and prose are intertwined, as are the mythic and historical – all together seeking to create a unique tapestry. I’m hoping the book will be of use in the world; it’s a book that wants to offer companionship and comfort, where needed.

 

--Interview with Deborah Kalb 

Feb. 12

 


 

ON THIS DAY IN HISTORY
Feb. 12, 1809: Charles Darwin born.